Re: How do you introduce swinging to your partner
The first step is out of the way I think. You know she is
Bi and you know she has had it before but does she know you
know? If so the rest should be easy. The #1 thing in any
relationship is communication. First you need to make sure
she enjoyed it, if it was a bad experience for her and you
ask to do it again she could hold it against you. When you
bring it up you need to be casual about it not just blurt it
out “ Hay baby how about you me and Irene tonight? Bring it
up while there is something going on TV or while looking at
a magazine that covers that kind of thing what ever is
natural, don’t bring anything out of the ordinary out that
she will know it is a setup. When you ask her do it in a
way that is not confronting, no “Hay you did it with
so-and-so why not me?” do it in a way that you can talk
about it. If she enjoyed her past experiences you can ask
something like “How would you feel about doing something
like that with me?” She may not want to in fear of loosing
you to the other woman so be understanding if she says no at
first, keep an open conversation about it, not confrontation
conversation. Make sure you set up rules before hand.
Things like if there is something you or she wants that is
special between just the two of you, or how far will things
be able to go with one or more partners. Another big one is
a code word for stopping if one of you gets to uncomfortable
in a situation.
